Hi, I am Karen, I’m a Relationship Psychology Coach,
My husband said that he loved me more than I loved him. When I asked him how he knew, and to give me an example, he couldn’t answer. I felt heart-broken that he couldn’t feel how much I loved him. It was down to me to find out why he couldn’t feel my love. This is when I started to train as a Relationship Psychology Coach.
It wasn’t until I found out about attachment styles and what his attachment style and his love language of ‘Acts of Service’ was, that I could identify the problem. My attachment style and my love language made me show my love in ‘Affection, Quality Time and Gift Giving’, which were all coming from a place of deep love for him but as his love language was ‘Acts of Service’ – doing physical tasks for your loved one, he wasn’t feeling it. He was literally missing my messages. When I started to do physical tasks for him, a few months later I asked him if he still felt that he loved me more, and and he said: “No, I feel fully loved by you”, which warmed my heart. I also shared my desired love languages that I needed to receive from him, and this sharing led us to a much more fulfilling emotional relationship; where we feel that we fully understood each other.
I look forward to working with you. Click here to arranage a free initial call.
The Problem
In romantic relationships there are three stages:
- The Honeymoon Stage – the early days of dating where it feels exciting and good
- The Power Struggle Stage – starting three to six months into the relationship, where there are long periods of what feels like misunderstanding, miscommunication, you being triggered, or your partner being triggered; where the relationship doesn’t feel like a safe place. The problem occurs when the Power Struggle Stage goes on for years.
- The Team Player Stage – starting a year, or a year and a half into the relationship (only if The Power Struggle has been overcome). The relationship becomes a safe haven, where we support each other, and have each others back. It is more peacefu,l more consistent, and communication is good.
Are you having problems in your relationship? Maybe with miscommunication, different ways of relating, triggering one another? If so, you are likely to be in The Power Struggle stage of your relationship, which is common, and where knowledge of your partner, and your own communication and love languages is paramount to overcoming The Power Struggle Stage and to ultimately reaching the final healthy phase called The Team Players Stage – the safe haven.
The Solution
The Relationship Trouble-Shooting 5-Step Programme (via Zoom calls) with me, Karen, Relationship Psychology Coach:
- Call 1 – Share your problem – you will be provided with some easy exercises to start to help
- Call 2 – Identifying your communication style – there will be a task to do before the next session
- Call 3 – Identifying your partner’s communication style – there will be a task to do before the next session
- Call 4 – Identifying the pattern or uncomfortable dance that both your styles create – identifying each others triggers – there will be a task to do before the next session
- Call 5 – Review any remaining obstacles, and how to trouble shoot them, and have an action plan to take away.
The Benefits of the Programme
- Understand yours and your partners communication styles
- Develop your communication style to become more secure
- Know how to communmicate with your partner and how not to trigger them
- Knowing what to do if you get triggered
- Have more open communication with your partner
- Show love to one another in each others Love Language
- Feel closer to your partner
- Gradually progress into the Team Player Stage – where it becomes easier to have a more consitent, committed, calm relationship, with better, more loving communication.
Price
The Relationship Trouble-Shooting 5-Session Programme helps you gain clarity, overcome challenges and build a stronger relationship is £175 (there is an option to pay in instalments)
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FAQs
Q: What is involved?
A: There are five (one-hour) Zoom calls with Karen. After each call there will be a written and practical task.
Q: Can I cancel?
A: Yes, you can cancel and will be refunded for the sessions that you haven’t undertaken
Q: Will this work for me?
A: Yes it will work to help you understand your communication style, to feel more secure, and less triggered, and be able to communicate better with your partner. Your change in behaviour will help your partner to change to a certain degree, but ultimately, they also have to be open to change.
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Testimonials
Thank you Karen that last call (call 3) was really helpful, I understand my partner so much better and can see a better way to communicate with her. John, Scotland
I always thought it was all my boyfriends faults that the relationships ended. With Karen’s guidance, I now realise I was self-sabotaging my relationships. Now that I can see what I was doing and have worked through the exercises to become more secure, I know that I will not sabotage my next relationship, or if I feel any sensation that I might, I will be able to talk about it. Although it was sometimes painful to see my negative patterns, Karen guided me gently through the process. Claire, London
I was always going for guys who were emotionally unavailable, It wasn’t until I worked with Karen that I realised that my attachment style was attracting them. Since going through your programme I feel secure and have started dating a lovely secure man with no emotional triggers or ghosting behaviour in sight! Thank you. Sue, Kent.
Wow, this was eye-opening! It is easy to see yourself as the ‘secure one’ and blame your partner for the problems in your relationship. I always thought my girlfriends were just too emotional. Since working with Karen, I realise that I have been suppressing my emotions and ashamedly realising that I had faulty thinking – thinking that backing off was for the best for both of us! It is a journey but I am learning to feel my emotions, take accountability for my actions, and emotionally engage with my partner. Your programme opened my eyes and gave me a path forward. Steven, Hertfordshire.
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